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HOW TO ATTRACT MORE INTO YOUR LIFE
Be mindful of your self-talk, It is a conversation with the universe - David James
It all starts with you! Do you love yourself? Do you even know what it means to love yourself?
I used to think that if loved myself it would portray me to others as a 'Big Head' or 'Egotistical' or let me say it, a 'Self Involved know-it-all' but the truth is, if you love yourself you are actually just being kind to yourself.
As an entrepreneur and business owner, strive for perfection. I want to give so much service to others that I push myself to be better in mind, body, and soul. I sometimes push myself so hard that I get completely overwhelmed and down on myself... HANG ON... Magic self-talk alert!!! or I USED TO until I woke up to reality. If I don't talk kindly to myself then how can I receive kind talk from others?
Love yourself first and everything else will fall into place - Lucille Ball
Imagine if someone came up to you and said, 'hey buddy, awesome job on that work you did' but you felt that piece of work wasn't good enough or they are just saying that... well, then you have BLOCKED the positive and only attracted negative self-talk and guess what, they probably won't give you another compliment.
How you talk to yourself determines how you perceive EVERYTHING! and let's face it, we are constantly talking to ourselves, seriously, if anyone was in my head you'd all be in a home for the strange. Anyway, I now only talk to myself how I talk to others, for example, I used to be hard on myself with such self-talk as, 'oh, you idiot Shelley. why on earth did you say that now they're gonna think you are stupid' now it is 'Well done for speaking your truth and being honest'
I realised that I was never kind to myself with my businesses, could always do, be, say, feel better, I was never satisfied with my work, and then one day I thought, JEEZ, if I spoke to my children how I spoke to myself, they'd be completely messed up!! Shocker and lightbulb moment.
So, here's what I did to stop being unkind to myself and how I started to love myself:
I CATCH MY NEGATIVE SELF TALK THOUGHTS WHEN THEY JUMPED AT ME AND CHANGED THEM TO SOMETHING THAT ID SAY TO THE KIDS.
Eg. 'oh my goodness i have to get this done' SELF TALK - 'Relax, it will get done at the right time and nothing bad will happen if it is a little later than i thought it would be'or, 'what are they going to think of me' became 'what do you think of you?' SELF TALK - I think I'm kind and caring GREAT, that is what others will think.
I AM THE BEST BOSS I CAN BE TO MYSELF, I NO LONGER STRESS OVER RESULTS, I ENJOY THE PROCESS. I TREAT MYSELF HOW I TREAT MY EMPLOYEES.
eg. if I catch myself working long hours or frantically trying to figure out how to attract more into my life. I STOP! pushing only chases what you want away. SELF TALK - it will get done at the right time if i let it happen. You are doing an amazing job and people love your services.
I ACCEPT COMPLIMENTS AS TRUTH.
eg. if someone says they like your services or they love you. Believe them and say THANK YOU! you don't always need to repay a compliment with a compliment. Have confidence in yourself that it is an honest statement.
I WROTE A LETTER TO MYSELF
Dear Shelley, I am so sorry I have been pushing you to do better, you are doing amazing. you have 3 awesome exciting businesses, and it is awesome watching you turn your passions into profit, I am so proud of you. You are kind, funny, caring, honest and compassionate. Have faith in your abilities to help others and commitment to your goals and please be kind to yourself. I think you are awesome. Thank you for being you.I love you. Shelley xx
I READ AND LEARN... AND READ AND LEARN SOME MORE...
You are a badass - Jen Sincero
5-second rule - Mel Robbins
Get Rich Lucky Bitch - Denise Duffield-Thomas
To name a few... Only listen, read and watch stuff that boosts your positivity, confidence and knowledge.
I MEDITATE TWICE A DAY
I know i know... she said it again. but it is true. I go inside to be kind to myself. I love it and once you realise it is to just stop the monkey chatter you will love it too.
AND LAST BUT NOT LEAST... I GOT A COACH!!
You can not expect to go it alone, so make sure you surround yourself with the best people and yes! that means get yourself a tribe that boosts your conviction in your honest awesomeness!
The fact of the matter is, what you tell yourself is what you attract. so why not tell your self only good stuff.
Thoughts become things, so if you're telling yourself it is hard, or that only happens to others, or you are not good enough GUESS WHAT?? That is what you will get. so, tell yourself kindness, love and gratitude and watch your world transform.
Get in touch with me today to find out how I can help transform your life and your business, no, not big-headed, I just in believe myself and my services capability of being able to help you.